The In-Between: Embracing the Tension Between Now And The Next Big Thing by Jeff Goins
“Life was meant to be more than the daily humdrum. It was supposed to be enjoyable, full of purpose, not just stress and worry. So where has all our satisfaction gone? Where is our pleasure, our joy? We search on road trips and vacations for the life we’ve always wanted. We seek out meaning in our jobs. We even reserve those feelings of joy and satisfaction for major events like marriage or the birth of a child. But often we’re disappointed with what we find. Sure, we may be happy; but we are far from complete. Even the best job, best husband, and best vacation have their flaws.”
The word wait can be seen as Western culture’s most disliked “dirty” word. It seems most of us hate to displace gratification for very long. We wonder what we can do while we’re waiting. We don’t feel productive. Depending on the type of wait, some of us will pull out our mobile communication devices to access their social media, play games, or talk to friends. Others will try a wide variety of distractions. But what if the wait involves more time? Suppose it is a wait of days, weeks, months or even years? What should our attitude be toward times like this? Author Jeff Goins has some interesting thoughts about them.
I have read and reviewed a couple of this author’s works, and really enjoy his easygoing writing style. He is a young person who writes well for young people. His narrative storytelling witticisms are a pleasure to read. His ability to see beyond his years is refreshing. In this book, he recounts past experiences that drive home his point that there is much to learn in the in-between moments. Just maybe the western world has an entirely wrong take on these holding periods in our lives. Perhaps they aren’t a waste of our time.
“What we were hoping for, what we dreamed would be a larger-than-life experience, ends up looking a lot like morning breath and spreadsheets. So we keep searching, and we wonder why it’s becoming harder to sit still and just be. All the while, what we’re searching for sits in front of us, hidden in normal, everyday inconveniences. If we reserve our joy only for the experiences of a lifetime, we may miss the life in the experience. Such opportunities are everywhere, waiting for us to see them. But first we must learn to open our eyes, to recognize the gift of waiting.”
One snapshot Jeff Goins shares with his readers was one that resonated with me because of similar experiences. He and his friends were vacationing in Florence where they viewed Michelangelo’s sculpture of David. Instead of joining the queue to see the sculpture, they left the line and seated themselves in the room. For the next few hours they contemplated the intricacies of what they saw before them. When they left their collective response was, “Wow!” Nothing else needed to be uttered. Being a “sit and soak” type of person, I have had a few of those moments, usually when choosing to stand still and really look and wonder…often to the annoyance of those with me who wanted to move on. Do you take the time to drink in special moments?
In addition to sending me this book for review, I was also provided an audio mp3 of the author Jeff Goins reading this book. There is nothing like listening to a book being read by the person who wrote the piece. The nuances of expression during the reading add another layer of understanding to the experience. I really enjoyed the book so much more with the audio addition. In fact, the entire experience was a lot of fun. It was if I were sitting down on the front porch and sharing a moment with the author. I loved following along in the book while listening to the audio, but I also enjoyed the audio book by itself. I highly recommend this book with the audio version.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a complimentary review copy of the print book from Cross Focused Reviews (A Service of Cross Focused Media, LLC) and Moody Publishers and the audio book from Christianaudio.com. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
- Review of “The In-Between” by Jeff Goins (charlieray45.wordpress.com)
- Learning to Appreciate “The In-Between” of Being 40 (tarissahelms.com)
- No Pasa Nada: The Call to Slow Down (thehighcalling.org)