Why Did We Blame? by Paula Rose Michelson is the second book in her series on the Lamb Ministries 7 X 7: Biblical Recovery for Women Suffering from Trauma and Abuse. “Lamb Ministries was born to help women recover from the negative impact of what went before, so that each woman who undertakes this journey can grasp hold of the full blessings of God in Messiah (Christ). Had I not experienced what many of my LAMB Ladies had, God would have gifted this work to someone else.” Each book in this series is about the fallout of abuse; how to deal with the results that stay with us. Book one dealt with anger. This book helps us handle blame, or the continuing of abuse.
The beauty of this series is the key to recovery mentioned in the first book– the 7 X 7 method. It is simple and yet crucial for recovering women to do this work. The second key is journaling. Readers are often encouraged to write our candid ideas down, or to meditate on Scripture and write our thoughts on them. Sometimes there are lists to write down and pray over. The process is easy and short.
The book is designed to be read like a devotional, a few pages at a time. It is not a book to be read and then placed on the shelf. It helps you progress through your recovery, which could take some time. So I found it a good book to return to, time after time. Book one was the same way.
The author and I have similar backgrounds in that we both had a relative with similar conditions. Our abuse was basically verbal, yet devastating. Verbal abuse is no less difficult to recover from than physical abuse. The scars are invisible, but still there. Additionally, we both found the same solution to our insecurities. So Ms. Michelson has a tremendous capacity for empathy. It’s quite evident in this series.
I never felt I had “finished” my recovery, so the steps outlined in this book were helpful for me. I have discovered that as a person goes through different stages in their lives, new challenges arise and some of the fallout from abuse raises its ugly head once again. This is a series that can aid in taking that next step. Even if we must do so repeatedly.
One of the things I like best in this book is how the author shares her own personal experiences and recovery with her readers. I love that. I didn’t feel that “she had it,” and I don’t “have it.” This book implies we’re all traveling this journey together. Do you find yourself caught up in the “blame game?” I have. I think you will find good suggestions to break this cycle. Your friends and family will love the new you when it’s broken.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received an ARC copy of this book from the author. I was not required to write a review, positive or otherwise. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”